Of all the words in the English language the one I’ve come to dislike the most lately is the word ‘just’. It belittles the point we are trying to make and whether or not you realize it you are making yourself seem small and unimportant.
I ‘just’ wanted to check in but will you be…..
I ‘just’ wanted to clarify….
I ‘just’ wanted to ask….
As if somehow the word ‘just’ makes us seem less threatening? Are we really that afraid to stand up for ourselves and if necessary ruffle some feathers? You need that clarification to complete a work task or trying to find out how many people to make a reservation for. You deserve an answer and there is no need to, consciously or unconsciously, lower your own self worth to get one.
We can so easily fall into the habit of using this filler word, that brings no meaning other than a disservice to ourselves. I find myself constantly re-reading blog posts to edit out the word ‘just’, and using it a lot in everyday life if I don’t watch myself. When I make a conscious effort to watch for the word I can see the feelings attached to the times I want to use it. If I am not feeling particularly confident and I have to talk to someone above me in the workplace, or feel like the person I need to talk to will be annoyed to hear from me I pull out the ‘just’. And I am reflecting my perceptions of the situation to the other person by using that word. I try to lower myself to appease a real or imagined issue, when either way I still deserve their respect and my own. Repeatedly using this word is sending a message to yourself of your own unimportance and is a habit worth breaking.Repeatedly using this word is sending a message to yourself of your own unimportance Click To Tweet
But this is ‘just’ my opinion 😉